Being Mom

Right now I'm am sitting up late to make sure that a puking DJ makes it to the bathroom each time that the urge comes over him to do so. And as i sit here i read a passage on face book that says something similar to " I am your Mother first and your friend second....." It goes on about how mothers look after the well being of their children rather than caving into being someone at the same level as the children.

What does it take exactly to be a mom? the basics are food, clothing, shelter, school. They teach them the ABC's and 123's. They teach about love for God and Jesus. They teach children that there are rules of society respect, laws and civic duty. They show them what courage and respect is.  They teach them love, honesty and truth. They show them what chlorophyll is and that is how the grass is green and how Hawaii was created and why the Great Wall of China was built. (well at least that are the kind of questions my children ask about the world)

Mothers open the doors of the world to their children. They are the tying link between who kids are as they are young and who they grow up to be. Mothers can be what you always aspire to be. The kind of person who is strong,loving,caring, giving and always there for you.

I hope to always be there for my children. God willing, I will be.

Right now my children are at the stage where they need someone to guide them. Someone to show them the rules of the "playground". They need me to be the police, per say, and make sure that they don't kill each other in fights over transforming toys and building blocks. They still need me to help them take care of their dishes when they are done with breakfast, change their sheets and tell them which pile is theirs of the clean laundry.

One day tho they will change their own sheets, and fold their own laundry. They will not need me to look over their shoulder or have me be there while they read a story from their school books. Not only will they not need me to do it, they won't want me to either. they will hit the stage, as all of us do, that Mommy is not the lead in their life anymore. when friends and (oh god I'll say it) girlfriends become foremost on their mind than whether or not Mommy approves. And I'm sure that will last for several years, I'm guessing from about 9-23. And I'm being gracious in that bc I want my children to think I'm the most important from at least 11-20.

It is my hope that when my kids come out of the "mommy don't know nothing" stage that they will appreciate all that i have done as the police officer that i was when they were growing up. In all honesty I look forward to my children being adults.

Here is why.

I want to sit down with my kids and talk about God. To have them question authority with me. To ask me why the government stands this way or another. I want to see a 25 year old Spencer ask me "why?" of society the same way he asked me "why?" when i wouldn't let the 5 year old Spencer eat a second cupcake. I want them to ask me these questions. To sit down with me, not as a mother, but as a friend and confidant. To feel that their mother is no longer the police or guiding force in their lives, but an educated, loving reasoning adult that expresses many of the same view point of the world as they do. And even as adults if we disagree, well then that's OK because we are adults and we are allowed to our viewpoint.

I guess that what I am saying is that I know that I am raising three children. They will always and forever be my children. But it is my hope that when they get to the right age, that we may also be friends.